What you do in between sex with the woman you’re seeing says a lot about your expectations and the way you view her. Even if you’re only looking for a casual hookup, you’re still spending time with a lady, and depending your situation, you might be doing more than just going to her place (or vice versa) and having a romp in the sheets. Women aren’t terrible companions, and if you have fun in the bedroom, while you may not want a serious relationship, you can also have a casual friendship. But how much friendliness is too much? Is making your woman breakfast going to mean she expects a ring or are you just really good at making scrambled eggs? Let us help you figure out what messages you’re sending to the woman (or women) you’re seeing, and whether it’s the one you want to be projecting.

Judging by Conversations

One of the best indicators of what level your relationship with your lady friend is at is how you converse with each other. For example, if you show up at her home, take your clothes off as you walk down the hallway to the bedroom, do the deed, and leave without saying goodbye, it is about sex, and only sex. The thing that makes a difference here is how long you’ve been hooking up. If it’s the first or second time and you’re not planning on seeing her again, going in and getting what you came for makes sense. However, if you’ve been dating a woman for a while and see her frequently, you might want to pause and have a conversation. Sex is hot, but it’s also embarrassing and often funny, so if you keep on doing a woman, inevitably something unfortunate is going to happen in the bedroom. If you can’t laugh with a lady, then you’re both going to get bored of hooking up with each other.

Enjoying Her Company Doesn’t Mean Marriage

Enjoying the woman’s company you’re hooking up with is more like friends with benefits than anonymous sex. Anonymous sex is fine, but if you’re planning on seeing a woman more than once for a hookup, it can’t hurt to enjoy her company. In this case, making dinner or breakfast isn’t an indication that you like her for more than a sex partner, so much as politeness. Women are completely capable of enjoying fantastic sex with a man and also being his casual friend – casual everything, in fact. It’s perfectly fine to exchange actual words with your hookup, Just keep it light.

When Things Go too Far

Things are going too far into serious relationship territory when there’s cuddling, and then breakfast involved, or if she thinks your tattered t-shirts are cute and you do things together. This means you’re headed down the road to relationship. If she sticks around for a long time after you eat, that’s a bad sign as far as keeping things casual goes. Same for dinner – if you’re taking her out on legitimate dates on a regular basis, it’s a very short trip to spending holidays together.