Role playing is one of the easiest gateway activities to get into kinkier bedroom activities. It’s actually a lot more common than one might believe. Talk it over with your girl and come up with some fantasies you’d like to play out together. Giving her more power to decide will put her more at ease. Try some of these role playing scenarios to start with.

Nurse (or Doctor) and Patient

Decide who’s going to be the one in charge, if it’s her she’s a nurse and if it’s you it’s a doctor. Yes, it’s sexist, but there are even more good scenarios. The patient has an illness that can only be cured by screwing. No medical jargon is required and you don’t have to even know what disease it is (it might be contagious, but who cares). You don’t even need special costumes. The medical person can wear white clothes and the patient just a simple pair of pants. Of course, this is one of the most popular role plays so there are a ton of sexy outfits for nurse to try on. If you and your girl do end up liking this one there are different routes you can take to make it more serious: partial care treatment (bathing, getting in and out of bed) and full care treatment (bathing, feeding, basic needs). How far you go depends on the comfort level between the two of you.

S&M

S&M stands for sado-masochism. It sounds scary, and it is at deeper levels. Starting out all you need is a silky blindfold and maybe some light restraints. One partner gets to “punish” the other one. She may have been a bad girl or needs to be tamed. Whatever the situation make sure you have a safe word. A safe word is any word that you and your partner come up with together. It can literally be anything that you can possibly imagine as long as it isn’t related to sex in any way, shape, or form. Once you have got that down, gently tie her up and try to do some light spanking and kissing all over. Since she can’t see, everything will feel better. This will probably be more popular when it comes to role playing because it actually feels really good. After you’re comfortable with this play you can begin getting into the more rough stuff if that’s what you and your partner want.

Strangers

The most exciting role play to some is the idea of the stranger. This can actually turn into a whole elaborate affair. Both of you get ready separately and head out to the same bar around the same time. Try to go somewhere where people won’t know you so they don’t ruin the fantasy by saying “Oh hey! I saw Susan over at the bar. What are you two up to tonight?” You don’t want to tell them, so just avoid it, after a bit of checking each other out, approach her. From here on out you two are characters; complete strangers. Flirt a while, buy her a drink, go out dancing, and all the while pretend you don’t know her and she doesn’t know you. Take her home for the night and have some sizzling sex.